Yes... I am getting married....
When my mom first told me about the proposal, it was an awakening for me that I am old enough to get married and gonna take much more responsibilities… Nope.. It was not tension or stress like what we read in books… The things which made me more concerned is that, I may loss my freedom (which in turn I got only a couple of years ago). Advises started pouring in and all have one message… go for it… There will be thousands to say the positive aspects of a deal… but in this I may be the only one thinking about its negatives… more over my freedom and my thoughts were only my matter of concerns.
The “plus” point I have is that.. I know her from childhood… But my friends, don’t misunderstand with the usual “childhood playmates concept”. In fact I saw her only four or five times before and know nothing other than just her name. Yeh.. we never talked before. Sounds odd??? Yeh.. and that was the reason I said yes to this. Officially declared about the proposal to all and its on its way.
But I needed time to transform… And to enjoy my limited bachelorhood to its maximum. I had lots of concerns about how my life would be after marriage. Was it gonna affect my life to a great extend??? Any way I remember the words of my cousin during our chit chat when he was into his “husband-ship” for almost a month or two. He said “Nothing much changed in my life… Before it was like I use to come back from work cook myself and do everything myself.. Now I just have to go to the table, the food will come to me, home will be clean and in order.... those gains are balanced with some loses also…Like spending time in a beauty spa waiting room reading boring magazines and waiting for wifey… and listen to her opinion before doing anything important…. Other than that life is usual.. Going on and on and on”. May be he got a wife who is quiet understanding, or is that he is a peace lover, whatever they are still together and most importantly both are still alive. That was a great support.
Next concern came from my family. Communication. As you know for any relation to cherish, communication is very much needed. And in my case I didn’t know anything about her other than her name. So it was a big concern for our families that we are not talking much. I like people who talk open. May be because am very bad in seeing people’s mind, I relay on their words very much. Because of some reasons communications between us was not going well when we talk directly. I always had this problem “kind of starting trouble” when talking. And I believe even she had same problem. Solution came instantly. We may feel difficulty to say hello to a stranger directly… But will u ever hesitate to ping a stranger in Facebook or Chat?... Yes that’s it… So.. We started Chatting… Through facebook, sms etc etc… and we became familiar and more comfortable with each other. What an idea sirjee!!!
So then engagement was done, and date of wedding is fixed and have very few days left for it. And I am very proud of my friends for their support. Rinosh call me almost every night to remind me things to be done. Nizar is busy designing e-card for me for wedding invitations. Alwin keeps on scolding me for not making decisions fast enough, Josh advising me with skin care tips. Jomon trying to design coverage and giving instructions to photographers. At home, renovations are going on, Invitations being sent. Dad is busy arranging for reception. Mom is doing last round check up of all… Everything moving fast.
My home is getting ready to receive new member and me too, with a hope that she will bring more light to our world.
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